A dreamed mate II

Vladimir : Thank you very much for your comment. It will be a real challenge to debate your arguments. You said "I think everyone is in permanent evolution", and this is the way it should be, but I'm afraid there is people who seems to be stucked in a stage of his/her evolution. That's exactly the reason why El Marqués and I were so surprised when our friends got married with their girlfriends: those girls don't seem to be smarter, or wiser, or skillful or more interesting in any way than when we first met them, several years ago. However, I agree with you: when I described a mate who evolves permanently I meant a mate who makes me proud of her. I believe a good way to do it is adapting to normal changes in your environment and finding new challenges to improve. Unfortunately, I've already met a few people like this, so I KNOW as a matter of fact they are real and to dream of someone like this is not an impossible whim.
          Most people just get accustomed to comfort and I don't like that (I hope I would never behave this way).
          Additionally, you said "Sooner or later beauty will vanish". I think you said this under the assumption that youth = beauty (there is an age for beauty). However, I think there is a beauty for each age: a baby girl could be beauty but not in the same fashion a grown woman could be. A number of grandmothers are beauty in their own way as well, and you can say probably they should be hot in their teen years. Of course most people won't be attracted in a sexual way by a baby girl or most grandmothers (anyway I don't), but sex-appeal is an acceptable demand at my age. However, I really don't expect that a mate will be sex-appealing no matter her age (that's more a demand from the consumption society than mine) but I do expect she keep her healthy and beauty according to her age. I'm trying to do the same, stop dressing myself as a teenager and choosing a look I could like which is according to my age.
          On the other hand, you said "you don't want to spend years thinking you need to ‘become a better person' to ‘deserve' your girl". I completely agree with you, just my bad writing betrayed me. I think every human being deserves to be loved (fortunately I've been) but I would like to be loved by someone I fall in love with. It's not a matter of deserving your mate's love (as you pointed out, true love is by definition unconditioned) is just I like challenging women. I guess my doom is to fall in love with Brynhildr, the valkyrie who only would love the warrior who could defeat her in combat... ha, ha, ha :)
          So, if I want an interesting mate, I should be interesting to her eyes at least. I don't imply if she is a good tennis player I should beat her in every match. I just mean I should have some attribute that makes her feel admiration about me, no matter if it is about a completely different field than hers.